The 12 Steps of ‘Copter Parent Detox …
- We admit that we are powerless over our urge to hover over our children with constant intervention and attention, making both of our lives unmanageable.
- We believe that strengths beyond our current awareness (or an outside influence) must be relied upon to restore us to sanity in parenting our children, in-law children and grandchildren.
- We make a decision to turn to fellow recovering helicopter parents, and ‘CopterDetox, for help in permanently grounding our hovercraft.
- We make a searching and fearless inventory of the situations in which we are most likely to hover.
- We admit to our friends and children the nature of our hovering and ask our friends and fellow parents to help us avoid those situations.
- We are ready to accept the help they give.
- We humbly ask them to help us land our helicopter and toss the keys.
- We make a list of occasions when our hovering caused harm to our children and others.
- We speak honestly with our children about our past flights, make amends, and ask for forgiveness.
- We continue to examine the ways in which we hover, and where we find shortcomings, we admit it.
- We appreciate our children, in-law children, and grandchildren for their unique gifts, which shine without our intervention.
- We carry forward the message of ‘CopterDetox and pledge to help other hovering parents, so their children, too, shall live free of the blade’s shadow.
I thought I wasn’t a helicopter parent, but I admit that I am sometimes powerless over my urge to help my children, my in-law children and my future grandchildren.
Let us all begin at the beginning … My name is Becky B and I’m a helicopter parent.
*The ‘CopterDetox 12-step program is an adaptation of the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-Step program, source Realistic Recovery.
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